This fantastic article was written by our forum member Bionca, a pretty pre-op tgirl and it I'm really proud to publish it here for it gives a good insight into tgirl psychology. A must read for all TS lovers!
You have a T-Girl..so now what??
For you guys who haven't dated or been in the company of a transwoman (ladyboy, shemale..etc.) here a a few tips. This is for actual dates where you meet for dinner or drinks or coffee and money is not exchanged for the company.
1) DO: Use correct pronouns. SHE is not a "He" no matter what the doctors said at birth.
2) DON'T: Tell her she looks like a woman. Compliment her on how she looks (if you feel like it), but for goodness sake don't act surprised. That tells her you expected a "man in a dress".
3) DO: Be punctual, or communicate if you wil be running late. It's polite and lots of TGs get stood up. Being really late with no explanation or warning tells anyone that they aren't really important.
4) DON'T: Ask her what her "Real" name or "boy" name is. This probably brings up an unpleasant time in her life and it is often used by people to keep us in our place as "not really women" or "failed men".
5) DON'T ask to see a picture of when she looked like a guy. Same as above but way way more. If you ever do see a picture of her from this time, understand that she is showing you herself when she was probably feeling her worst.
6) DO: Try to impress her. You don't have to treat her like a princess, but you should use your best dating manners (ask what she likes to do, pay attention to her, smile alot).
7) DON'T: Treat her like your buddy. It's like above, but more. Don't leave her alone while you chat up another girl. She won't take that as well as your guy friends would. Walk her to her door, even if you aren't getting sex.
DO: Understand that she is an individual and has her own likes and dislikes. It will help your cause if you don't assume too much about her.
9) DON'T: Ask about her genitalia or transgender history in public, or at least do it quietly. Most of us try to live unobserved in our daily lives. Broadcasting that your date has or had a penis is simply not safe for either of you.
10) DO: Have fun! Take her to a place you are both comfortable, get to know eachother, laugh and makes jokes, be relaxed and be prepared to have a great night with a woman who will notice and appreciate every little kindness and polite gesture you make.
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Thanks for the tips! I'm looking for my true heart's desire, a t girl to marry and grow old together with.Your tips may be invaluable for me in the future, although I'd already thought of them, but it's nice to be re-assured!
Thanks!
Alex
I am the female part of a couple and I would love to get with a shemale and My husband for more than just friends :.)
Char and Bruce
I am also in Tucson AZ and hope that there is a hot shemale that would be interested in meeting with us!
Thanks,
Char and Bruce
Also,
I and Bruce are very kinky and I am a Domina so it would be most interesting and I am well aware how to handle shemales, even when they "get that attitude:.)"
Char
So essentially, you'd treat her like a woman huh? I've always treated women very well and these rules here pretty much sum up how I treat them.
However, there is a slight difference with a tgirl. Mention of impressing them there.
I find it exceedingly difficult to impress a woman and a t-girl I would imagine is even more difficult to impress. The pressure to impress is difficult to overcome for me.
Any advice?
To treat a transwoman without regard to respect to the pronoun is a certain way to end any chance you could have. tggirl6@gmail.com