This was a very passionate and emotional email that i received from our reader, a tgirl June, and i’m publishing it here with her permission.
Most trannies, shemales or ladyboys are not open about their personal equipment, but what happens when they are? How do you tell someone that you look like a female but also have a penis? It is easy just like that! Society is becoming more accepting of individuals that are different from themselves.
In past year’s people that did not fit the norm of society, whatever that is, were outcasts. Work places can not discriminate because of the different physical abilities of their employees. So it is relatively safe to come out and be honest about who you are. Why should you have to hide or live a life of shame? There is nothing to be ashamed of, you were born that way and should live you life in freedom just like everyone else.
While telling others around you that you are a chick with a penis may be difficult and a bit awkward, chances are that you will get a shocked but warm reception. Some people will try and console you, but you can also share the fact that you are comfortable with yourself and they should be as well. You may get some new proposals because many people have secret desires that they keep pinned up for years and sometimes their entire lives. Communication and sharing feelings makes for a better world. Think about it somebody had to start the discussion and announce the fact that they were different or we would still be living in the dark ages.
Everyone is different and there are thousands of people that live their life in secrecy and sometimes shame. Most people are more accepting than you think and you will more than likely be surprised when you do share your secrets. If you are surrounded with people that care about you, it will be a snap and then it will be off your chest. You can live life without hiding any longer.
In one news story it was reported that 80% of transgender individuals who disclosed their secrets to family and friends were recepted with loving and open arms. Think about how good that felt. Course you do have to consider that other 20% that did not have the same positive response. Look at it this way, if they love you they will be by your side regardless. If not it is time for you to move on and find a new circle of friends. Us trannies will take you!
Post tags: news, transsexual
I think as long as you are real about who you are you will be just fine. I prefer a passable ladyboy/transsexual because it’s more mysterious and the sex is much better
As far as with me personally, I accept them, but I know alot that would not. There were some living in my neighborhood who were getting attacked and I stopped it and beat the shit out of the guy who was robbing her, I left but police wanted me for assult, The tranny never told who I was even she knew where I lived. She eventualy moved to a better neighborhood, I don’t feel bad for what I did, and I would do it again, for anybody, and thats the way it should be.
Although same-sex marriage has become more accepted in several states, I don’t believe society in general accepts that, or transsexual people. Most of society is still very closed minded. That is sad, transsexuals are still HUMANS and have the right to live their lives. My best friend is lesbian and I love her as is. I have a saying, ‘When we meet, you are my equal unless you prove that you aren’t worthy of being in my life.’ Being said, if I meet a transsexual human and we like, attraced to each other and want to make love, I would do my best to give her pleasure. Not just in bed, but in all aspects of life. Love is Love.
I am a shemale and being in public is not difficult for me. I look just like other women and unless you know me personally you would never know I had a penis. I like being a shemale because I like it when men try to come on to me.
How one acts in public will decide if people are accepting or not. Since I’ve chosen to be a female full time I don’t dress in provocative clothing, my make up is not overly done and the clothes I wear are comparable to other female attire other women wear,
I use the women’s restroom when the need calls while I am out. I’ve had my hair styled. had a cosmetician apply make up at Macy’s.
I’ve been fitted for bras and sat to let a salesman touch me legs as he helps me decide which pair of shoes I want.
There are plenty of others just like me. we blend in and we enjoy ourselves.
Such is not always the truth. Some of us got disowned on the spot. Others have had legal battles with their spouse, custody over children, attacked, and sometimes even murdered for such statements.
While society as a whole is more… tolerant, it’s kind of just that; tolerance. Not acceptance, just sort of a “we’ll put up with your existence, as long as you pretend not to exist” kind of thing in many cases.
I got lucky and have a job where it wasn’t really considered that big a deal and no one cared. I didn’t make a big fuss over it, and didn’t force the issue, it just kind of was what it was, nothing more and nothing less.
Unfortunately, I know others who didn’t get that same luxury. There are people I know who were fired/laid off because of not wanting to make others around them uncomfortable, those who ended up homeless for awhile because they couldn’t get through an interview, despite being overqualified for the position, and their family refused to help them in any way, shape or form.
I’m not discounting that things are a lot better than they once were! They certainly are much better now, of that there’s no doubt. However… to say it’s perfectly fine is an irresponsible statement.
During transition, when one doesn’t look obviously and totally male or female, but somewhere stuck in between, the transgendered unemployment rate is about 60%. Yeah, only 4 out of 10 can maintain a job during transition, a time in their life when they’re paying out the ass for tens of thousands of dollars in medical bills, most of which aren’t covered by insurance, and going through a major period of emotional upheaval of anything resembling stability.
Now, before you start transition at all, or after you make the full transition, and pass well? Yeah, things get much better once the paperwork’s done and no one knows what you were stuck with once in your life. If you can apply for a job and look like any other man or woman, no problem; you just have the standard issues anyone else has at that point. It’s that period when it’s kind of obvious that you’re not quite… “normal”, that things like the uncanny valley take effect and do a wrecking crew job on your life.
Keep in mind it’s still practically legal in many areas to murder a transgendered person. Recently, a law was passed in Arizona that makes it illegal for transwomen to use a women’s washroom in public, even (though it doesn’t apply to transmen, showing how much the whole law is rooted in pure fear rather than any understanding), with harsher penalties than attempted murder via poisoning. Yeah, you can actually try to kill someone and get a less severe penalty than a woman using the woman’s washroom without your birth certificate on you.
As such, it’s kind of obvious that things aren’t perfect by a long shot, but there has been some progress made in some areas. In other areas… not so much. Most of the world is moving slowly ahead on the transgendered rights thing, though the USA is lagging pretty hard behind. It’s pretty difficult to claim the moral high ground when bloody Iran of all places has better human rights than the USA for trans people =P
Trans people are still a mystery to most people, with the majority of the knowledge of such coming from porn (dickgirls!), distasteful transphobic jokes, and poorly worded stereotypes “I’m a woman trapped in a man’s body!”.
Individually, these things wouldn’t be such a big deal, but the problem is that this is where the majority of the average layman’s knowledge about trans people comes from.
If you’re in hiding, scared to tell anyone you’re trans and trying really, really hard to pretend to fit in with your assigned gender which you’re failing miserably at, then no one knows and no one learns anything.
If you pass, and simply act as a normal person, again, no one knows and no one learns anything.
The only trans people who people make contact with and actually know about it, are those who are somewhere in the middle and don’t “quite look right”, or porn.
We’ve come a long way, but there’s still a lot more to go. The LGBT rights thing kind of holds the T part at arms length, and often actively goes through extra effort to remove trans-friendly wording from legal changes so that it’s LGB only, so it’s kinda hard to say that things are great, when even your closest allies stab you in the back at every opportunity presented to them.